Before the nation had even heard of “shelter in place,” bride Megan O’Sullivan said “I do” at her city hall ceremony in San Francisco—a small, intimate civil service that she’d planned for she and her fiancé as a precursor to her destination wedding in Mexico. Soon afterwards, she had to make the difficult decision to postpone her April wedding due to mounting concerns about the coronavirus.
Because many brides-to-be have been DM-ing us with questions about their specific wedding plans as they try to figure out how best to navigate what to do during this unprecedented time, we thought it might be helpful to highlight the experience of someone who’s just been through it herself and come out the other side.
Megan’s civil ceremony on March 11th was tiny—“it was just the two of us, I picked up a bouquet on the way to city hall . . . it was very relaxed,” she says. With that in mind, they weren’t counting it as “the real thing,” since they had been looking forward to walking down the aisle in Mexico with all of their loved ones in attendance for ages.
The original date for her Cabo San Lucas wedding was April 4th; it’s now been moved to July 18th. “It wasn’t until the evening after our civil ceremony, that we finally accepted the reality of postponing,” Megan admits. “We were monitoring the status of the situation closely, and it eventually became clear that it was the right decision.” The couple wanted their guests to feel comfortable traveling and also thought of their grandparents, who they couldn’t imagine celebrating without.
To help make the decision, Megan called New York-based illustrator Happy Menocal (among many others). Happy had created Megan’s wedding paper suite and has served as a guide throughout her planning process. Hillary Bissinger, Happy’s business director, hopped on the phone and agreed from the beginning that postponing was the right choice. She served as a much-needed sounding board and offered the Megan helpful insight every step of the way.
Now that the decision has sunken in, Megan is grateful that she made it when she did. “We had vendors with deadlines that were quickly approaching, and if we had waited any longer, there would have been bigger consequences,” she says. The bride is also aware of how fortunate she is to have flexible vendors and contracts, helpful and supportive parents, and the ability to postpone rather than cancel.
“Planning a wedding can take up a lot of mental space, emotional preparation, and literal preparation, so I think it’s understandable to feel sad and disappointed—I definitely had some tears!” she shares. “But, we are not alone, and for the most part, this was completely out of our control. Now, I just feel relieved.”
“While it was a tough decision to make, we know that we are so fortunate that our vendors are willing to work with us, and we have the ability to postpone. Because of that, it’s clear that this is really just a minor adjustment in the grand scheme of things,” Megan says. “And we are certainly not the only ones adjusting!”